Both dreams fall into one.
The lord refer you to the book of :
◄ Matthew 7:3-5 ►
Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
The lord call : focus on dealing with your marriage issues and internal chaos[the fighting rats]first, then you can help your friend,neighbour or your brother to restore the peace that was lost in his marriage and his marital choas.
Now, let break it down :
What transpired between you and your wife in the first dream, means : harmony riot. That is, there was no correlation between you and wife.
For, it is written :
◄ Amos 3:3 ►
Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?
In essence, the lord say, there is no accord,agreement nor true love/peace or should say,core understanding?- within your marriage,between you and wife. Therefore, the lord call that you may see to how you can tame your wife to fit into your life so that you can have agreement, live in accord,and most importantly, have some or everything in common-goal and live in true understanding of each other.
Bless you.